when young south asian adults pursue a career that their family approves of instead of one that they find personally fulfilling, they might feel proud for maintaining family expectations. but how long does this pride last?
research has repeatedly demonstrated that a
fulfilling career leads to better life satisfaction
, and as a result,
lower psychological problems
. this choice is ripped away from many children of south asian immigrants who end up feeling stuck in careers they do not find meaningful, ultimately leading to a negative impact on their overall mental wellness and relationships.
when it comes to dating, cultural expectations of south asian families can conflict with western norms. for many youth, entering into a relationship prior to marriage is discouraged. consequently, many young south asians keep their relationships hidden due to internalized shame and a
fear of being rejected by their families
.
this is another reason for mental health challenges like depression and anxiety, especially in women who may feel like they are putting the family’s honour at risk by dating.
culturally relevant therapy is needed
south asians seeking psychological services often feel misunderstood by health-care providers and then get discouraged from getting further help. traditional psychotherapy has been founded on normalized versions of western, middle-class families. these approaches to therapy are difficult to translate across language and cultures without appropriate modification.