it is tough, but at the same time, i think lots of people go through even worse. i try to look at it in a positive way — i’m still alive and getting better every day.
margriet, of course, was very concerned and stressed. i agree that when someone goes through a really difficult medical problem, where they need a lot of therapy and hospitalization, it’s typically more emotionally traumatic for the caregiver than the patient. the patient may be going through more physically, but the caregiver is dealing with a lot more emotionally. they feel helpless — they rely on the doctors.
we had a lot of support from our friends and family — this really helped us get through. we had lots of doctors’ appointments and we often left the kids at someone’s home so that margriet to join me. thank goodness we had people who were willing to help us with things like meals.
our faith in god also helped because we knew that no matter what was going on, as bad as it would ever be, we knew that he was watching over us. and not that that meant there was going to be a solution, but just knowing that someone is in control was helpful to manage the trauma going on in my body.
there’s hope in my story, too, for the future. people who are newly diagnosed with ahus now can get on this drug immediately, which restores their kidney function, and they can go back to a pretty normal life.